About Me Who I Am My View of the Scene What I Am Looking For

I'm a single sixty one year old bisexual man living in Southern California / Los Angeles. 

Just a quick note to clear things up - when I say I'm Bi that means I am out and up front about it.  I am not cheating on anyone as I don't cheat, period.  I don't "cat around," I'm not "on the down low," and I'm not "discrete."  When I commit to someone, I commit to them alone.  So, if your experience with Bi men is different then that's their loss for I am not them and they are not me.

I am a laid back, intense, easy going, driven, honest, reliable, committed, independent, and team player sort of guy. I like taking charge unless someone else is around who can do a better job of leading than I.  I've no time for fools but, having been there myself, I can appreciate how anyone can have bad day or two in a row.  I've been around the block a few times now, but I'm happy when I find new things on each lap. I'm quiet and outspoken, serious and fun loving. Orderly and spontaneous. If all this seems paradoxical, you're right. But then, so is life and so am I.

I'm an intelligent guy and proud of what I have accomplished with that.  I was very active in the San Diego leather community through my involvement with Club X San Diego and LeatherFest.  I was one of the founders of Club X and have been involved in the leather/ SM/ fetish scene in general since the mid-1980s.

I got my start back in DC.  I came out in ‘82 and really dove in during the Summer of ‘84 when I was working as a bouncer at Badlands. Considering the general state of safer sex awareness at the time and the number of guys I played with, I am truly amazed that I am not only still HIV Negative - but that I am even alive, period!  I am both though and intend on staying both for some time to come!

I started getting into the leather world by about ‘86 or so and really started going deeper by the following year.  It was also at about that time that I discovered I was bi.  I moved out of DC to Atlanta in ‘89 because I wanted to see more of the world than that which was visible from the within the Beltway.  After about eight months in Atlanta I left for even greener pastures, landing in San Diego in May of ‘90. That is where I have lived for the next quarter century.  It was my place in the sun.

Unfortunately, though it was sun filled it wasn't job filled.  I wound up being "temporarily between employment opportunities" once too often in San Diego.  I tried the "road warrior" routine of doing consultant work in Alabama and in New Mexico but found that I'd no personal life while working on the road like that.  Plus living out of a hotel isn't really much to boast of.  So, on about 2015 I moved up to Los Angeles.  And that's now where I am making my life work.

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